anirishwarrior's Blog

I am not even sure what I am talking about here! 
I was doing some research and came across some poetry and quotes concerning love and it got me to thinking.
Thinking about my own life, and how it has evolved. 

I am Divorced twice.  I never even thought I would get married once. 
When I was younger, I was shy and though Girls seemed to find me attractive, they did not really seem to like my shy personality. As I matured, and got my college Degree, I found it easier to approach woman.  

My first wife was engaged to a young man who had recently dropped out of college and took a job in Retail sales.  I found her personality captivating, always a smile, always seeking a little fun, even if it got a bit naughty at times. She was not the type to go out and get drunk, or do drugs, or even sleep around.  Very straight laced, but in a fun mischievous way!  
I asked her out!  
Found out she was engaged!  Bummer!  
Then for a few months after that she was calling me on the phone, dropping off little gifts at my apartment, Cookies, flowers, brownies, etc.
So once again I asked her out. This time she said no, "but come over to my place tonight , were having a birthday party for my room mate, Karen".  
I get there, and guess who is there, her BF.  I was a bit annoyed, but we had a great little party, her room mate was thrilled, Karen sat next to me the whole night and hung onto my arm very tightly. 
As the evening wrapped up, I was going to help do dishes, but the Karen told me to just sit on the couch with her. I did, she seemed almost frightened. Then I heard some loud voices coming from the Kitchen, and I started to get up, to see what was happening, that is when I saw the BF, marching angrily towards the door. Cussing his ass off as he went.
She ( my future wife) had just given him his ring back!  It turns out that I was invited over because they were not sure if he would get violent or not!  
He did look at me on the way out, but did not say a word to me. He was a bit of a hot head, but I had him by 75 pounds if he wanted to go a round with me!  
I always wondered, if the roles had been reversed, would I have handled it any better? 
I found this quote, that I think sums up how I would respond to loosing a love to another man.

You know you love someone when you know you want them to be happy,
even if their happiness means that you are not a part of it.


To complete the story about my first wife, it took 3 more years before we got married, and several more male suitors!  She kept coming back to me for some reason. Twenty five years we were married, and two great kids. We grew apart, and things did not work out in the end, but it was a damn good ride for awhile! 

I have been running sort of a butterfly theme on my profile lately!
For those who think i have lost my mind, I assure you I have not.
Butterflies are my happy spot. I love them, they are one of natures truly beautiful creations.
I have thousands of pictures of Butterflies in my collection. I am sharing them here because I felt down,and it makes me feel good to see the pictures,and share them.
Butterflies come in many different shapes  and sizes.
I have pictures of Butterflies as large as a14 inch wingspan,and have seen one with a three foot wing span in a magazine. I am far from an expert, but enjoy them very much!

Thank You!

Love is like a Butterfly,  It pleases wherever it goes, And it goes wherever it pleases.

I hope I can articulate this in  a adult manner.

In April of 2010, I married my second wife.  She was a beauty, 28 yrs old, I was 54. 
We moved to Ark. to be near her family.  We got married a week later in a small ceremony.
Ok< her parents went nuts.  There were over 1000 people in the reception hall following the Wedding.
It was crazy, all the woman relatives wanted to dance with me. I spent hours on the dance floor.

That night, in our hotel room, she was too tired for sex she said...well I said thats not going to happen,
Well I quickly discovered she had recently had sex.  I thought, just your imagination dude!  

Fast forward five months...There was a small fire at work, and a mandatory short work day. I called her ( lets call her Sandy) to let her know I was coming home early. No answer, it went straight to voice mail. I left a quick message!  I get home, there is a strange car in the drive, so I can't park in my spot, so I park across the street and down about three houses, only spot open.  I figure Sandy has one of her GF's over.   As I start to get out of the car, I see a strange man leaving, she runs after him in just a robe, and gives him a big passionate kiss. He leaves, I get the license plate number.  Then I go home. She act's like nothing is going on! Says she just took a shower and was washing the sheets.  I was so mad, I wanted to smack her pretty little face. I said nothing, and slept on the couch, saying I was feeling sick. ( very sick!)
Over the next two weeks I kept track, 7 different guys in 10 work days.  Wow she was busy.  Two days she had a guy in the morning and another after lunch. 
With evidence , I see a divorce lawyer. he tells me what needs to happen.   The biggest thing was to get her out of my house!  I confronted her, Sandy denied, then I showed her phone cam photos of guys leaving.  She finally fessed up to seeing 17 different guys, I grabbed her hand and pulled my ring from her finger, she cried.
I told her I had seen a lawyer and she had til noon the next day to get her stuff and get out! Now she got angry, she yelled and screamed, then she told me she had slept with the best man at our wedding on our wedding night!   I was floored, but had suspected something.  My best freaking friend!!  
All of these men are married with kids! If any of you guys in the Ark area recognize this, beware, I have names and addresses, and am willing to mess up some families if I need to.
Good bye Sandy!  Just Freaking Go away!